You know you have learnt the theory, and that you can drive. Your instructor is amazing and knows you can drive, that’s why the test is booked, theory or practical.
Then it creeps in, the anxiety, often it fades away but sometimes it starts as a nervous feeling in the pit of your stomach, nausea, racing heartbeat and sweating – and ends up as a paralysing phobia; worse than any movie. It’s really common but that doesn’t help - no matter how often well-meaning family and friends try to reassure you, telling you it’s irrational.
How can you learn to control your anxiety and nerves like you have learnt to control your car?
In many ways it’s mind over matter – however that classic- “fear or flight” response isn’t very helpful (unless you’re living in cave and needing to fight a woolly mammoth).
So here are some simple tips to start you on the road to confidence.
The Basics: Eat and drink rubbish and you won’t feel great. Take care of yourself, avoid skipping meals and choose foods that make you feel good. Alcohol the night before can also trigger blood sugar imbalance.
Caffeine: A known trigger for anxiety. Give the latte and cappuccino a swerve – it can benefit your anxiety, as well as boosting your bank balance.
Manage your stress levels:A common cause for anxiety is long exposure to stress. Do what you can to lower your stress levels: exercise, take more breaks, meditation, mindfulness yoga, etc…
Affirmations: Hand write (yes with a pen and not on a keyboard!) – some positive affirmations about your driving skills. Your ability to drive calmly and confidently, staying relaxed. For example. “I’m calm, comfortable and relaxed while driving and I have the skills I need to pass” Read them before you go to sleep and, in the morning, whilst you clean your teeth. Say them aloud and imagine yourself driving while feeling calm and relaxed. Don’t underestimate the power of this simple exercise (even if you feel a bit ridiculous, if you really want to go for it look in the mirror right at yourself whilst you say it).
If you’re really struggling you might want to consider getting professional help. Hypnotherapy can achieve great results in just a few sessions. Negative thoughts trigger the anxiety emotion and hypnosis can help your unconscious to relax, reduce anxiety and become more confident.
Here’s a little of what two terrified learner drivers said after a couple of one hour sessions, Full review on my website firstname.lastname@example.org
“…… I felt like a completely different person, my driving instructor said the same and I passed 6TH time, wish I would have gone sooner…”
“………Diane really helped me get over my anxiety with driving, without her, I would not have passed my test….”This client had already failed four times.
To discuss how hypnotherapy can work alongside your instructor to help drive your anxiety away, call 07808 395651 or email email@example.com.
During Road Safety week, road safety charity Brake and insurance firm Aviva brought to light the dangers we face while driving every day. According to a recent survey from Aviva, four in five drivers think they’re a safe driver, although more than a third don’t recognise basic road signs, and a third of drivers still use their phones behind the wheel.
Richard Coteau, Corporate Fundraising Manager from Brakehighlighted that: “From our research and surveys, we know that driver distraction affects people, even more with many admitting that the temptation to update social media is too much to resist.”
Aviva conducted some research, looking into road safety around the world, highlighting what the safest countries are doing, such as Sweden and Finland – two countries which have some of the safest roads in the world. With the help of Aviva, we looked at how other countries around the world keep their roads and road users safe, and picked out some of the most unusual road rules.
Russia: Keep your car clean
Drivers have to keep up their vehicle’s appearances in Russia, as it could lead to a 2,000 ruble fine. This was originally set up so license plates are always visible.
Mind the gap in Singapore
Watch out for pedestrians, as it’s against the law for drivers to come within 50 metres of them.
In South Africa give way to herds
Herds have as much right to the roads as drivers and other road users. Drivers could face a stiff fine if they don’t give way to passing livestock.
Safety first in Turkey
It’s important drivers carry a fire extinguisher, reflective triangle and first aid kit, otherwise there’s risk of a fine.
Italy’s increased nighttime fines
Drivers caught committing serious driving offences between 10pm and 7am could find themselves being fined an extra third of the daytime fine.
No topless driving in Thailand
Try to keep your clothes on in Thailand! It’s illegal and drivers could face a fine if they don’t have a top on.
France: Slow down when it rains
When the heavens open in France, drivers are required to reduce their speed by 10km/hour on rural and dual carriageways, and a 20km/hour reduction on motorways.
To find out more about road safety around the world, read through Aviva’s Safe Driving hub, with useful guides and expert opinions.
Teaching is an art and a skill, which not everyone has the ability to do, as we are all good at different things in life, and teaching people to drive is rewarding aswell as having challenges along the way.
I recently undertook a small study with some of my clients, watching how they respond to the instructions I give them, how they process the information, and finally how they put that information into practice. Most of the pupils would process the information and speak out loud, some would be thinking quietly in their minds, but on the whole they both successfully completed the basic tasks. One of the area’s each pupil seemed to lack was forward planning, Observations of the new road they were entering and not taking in signs, which is quite a vital part of driving, for safety of everyone.
I put some thought into this, in my own private practice, wondering how they can miss such large signs when entering new roads or when approaching roundabouts. I listened to what I was hearing in my own head, and when approaching a roundabout I could hear in my sub conscious mind, “Where is the sign”, “What exit am I going to”, “What lane do I need”, “Can I go” and so on. It dawned on me I was self instructing in my head, all be it my subconscious mind. I wondered what would it be like to not have any questions in your mind or a quiet mind. After some thought the conclusion was clear, if you don’t talk through things you don’t get the answers, and then PANIC or get STRESSED.
In general there are 3 levels of learning, Cognitive, Associative then Autonomous, and as a Driving Instructor we start by using command style teaching, then to Questioning and finally to letting the pupil do everything automatically with very little input from us, making them drive for life ready.
The Command style is straight forwards, as they do everything in a sequence that is given to them, therefore controlling what they do. The second stage is questioning using leading questions to help the think “What gear will you need”, “what signs do you see up ahead” “What lane is…..” “What signs do you see” etc. Approaching a junction one day I asked my pupil what was coming up ahead, and she replied “A give way T Junction where would you like me to go” so I gave her the instruction to turn left, which was onto a 40 mph road. She approached the junction well, and looked and then drove out onto the main road safely making progress upto 30 mph!!!, but not to 40mph, and seemed to stop actively thinking, once she had entered the new road. I asked her “What is the speed limit on this road ?” and she replied “30mph” but there were signs at the end of the road, and repeaters frequently, so why was she not seeing them. After some thought it was clear that the pupil would think about what was needed to be done, as soon as they had heard an instruction, doing all the things they needed, but once they had done all the different parts and entering a new road, would be thinking the job was done until another instruction was given, so did not have to think anymore, so I asked myself, “How do I get them to think all of the time ?”
LEARNER TAKE CONTROL EXERCISE
This exercise has worked very well, but has to be carefully controlled, as the pupil will be nervous on the outset, so try on quieter roads first.
At the start of a driving lessons with one of the pupils, I said that today, she would inform me of what was approaching ie traffic lights, roundabouts or end of the road junctions, and once they tell me what was approaching, I would then tell them which direction to go, which is similar to the independent driving, but with a twist. I asked her not to tell me about junctions approaching on the left or right as would be continually saying Junction, Junction & Junction. All she had to do was say “Roundabout” or “Traffic lights” or “End of Road” and a direction would then be given. As mentioned the pupil will feel a little nervous as they are worried they don’t know where they are going, however it is no different to you saying “Pull away when safe to do so and follow the road ahead”. My pupil prepared the car, did all the checks and pulled onto the road and drove the car in a nice fashion, about 200 metres ahead were some traffic lights and she immediately told me “Traffic lights” so I gave her an instruction to turn left at them, and did not say anything further, leaving her in control. On approaching the lights I was watching her, and she was looking everywhere, her eyes were dancing from the road ahead and in to the new road, and she told me “It’s a 40mph road and the road is clear” she continued upto 40 mph and I could see her continually looking everywhere, she then informed me “Roundabout” so I told her to follow the sign for X, she approached the junction nicely, spoke out loud it was the 2nd exit ahead, then saying “I can go” she entered the roundabout and then told me the road she was entering was a 30mph. After 20 minutes we stopped for a chat, and she was very tired.
I asked her how she felt the exercise had gone and did it help, she informed me that she was tired due to actively thinking all of the time, in case anything was missed, and felt that in control of the drive, feeling as though she was alone in the car, even though knowing I was there. It was clear that in their mind they were 100% responsible for the car and all of the thinking, not waiting for instructions, therefore no Lull points between one junction and another, so not switching off, or relying on the instructor.
Over the next month this has been tasked onto most of the pupils even earlier stage drivers, and the result is quite amazing, resulting in very few signs or junctions being missed, because they are “Actively” THINKING. The exercise is also an excellent tool for the independent drive, as one pupil was in an area on his test which he did not recognise , however he was looking for the “Traffic Lights”, “Roundabouts” and “Junctions” before the examiner was giving the instructions, so had already thought through where he was positioned and what was ahead, this gave him advantage, so when the examiner gave the instruction, all he had to do was put into action everything, look at the sign which had already been seen and do the activity. The stress on tests seems to have been reduced, and a lot of the pupils are feeling more in control, and not relying on the instructor/examiner, which is exactly what they need to drive when they pass the test.
Try it for yourself and see, and feedback to me would be really appreciated.